Society demands that we keep overcoming, overcoming, overcoming. But we don’t have to. Nowhere is it written that to be a really real human you have to brute force your way through your limits. Nowhere is it written that not doing so makes you less worthy. For most people, constantly refusing to acknowledge that you have limits is seen as a problem. We all have limits & we are supposed to acknowledge them, know where they are, work within them.
But when you have a disability, it’s like everyone expects you to push past your limits all the time. They want to be inspired, or they want to not have to deal with the fact that a disability means “there are things I cannot and will never be able to do”, even as they expect me to know there are things I can do that they will never be able to.
So we are pushed to keep ‘overcoming’, and if we can’t we are failures and lazy. But if we can, we aren’t really disabled. It’s a no win either way.
— Neurodivergent K, 'Overcoming' Is Not a Moral Obligation (via skoomapipe)
"I will allow space for all the feelings my heart holds. I will not cower or hide from myself. It’s okay to feel the ugly messy things. It’s okay to feel the burning brilliance of beauty. It’s okay to feel the soft winds of happiness and the quiet bursts of loneliness. Its okay to feel it all. It’s okay to be myself, all of myself, not just the good."
— (via positivedoodles)
"Maybe today will be your big day and I hope that it is, but you don’t have to feel bad if it isn’t. Today doesn’t have to be perfect. It doesn’t have to be the day you change your life, the day you fix your problems, the day you start a new project, the day you heal, the day you win. Maybe today can just be the day you get out of bed or the day you are kinder to yourself than you were yesterday. Today doesn’t have to be everything. It just has to be today. It’s enough. It’s okay. There will be other days. There will be other chances. Until then, just enjoy this one as much as you can."
— (via pleasestopbeingsad)
I’d rather live failing than spend my days never trying. Failing doesn’t make me a failure. Failing means I am trying. It means I am stepping beyond my fears and striving for something more. Failing just means that next time I have learn from my mistakes and form them into my triumphs.
So I’m going to try, and if and when I fail I’m going to take a deep breath, and then try again.
— Dele Olanubi (via bealightinthedark)
the dedication recovery
You cannot avoid it,
nor can you speed through it.
take your time.
Your path may alter,
your rest stops may change,
but you will be
— Michelle K., How do You Recover? pt. 6. (via michellekpoems)
"Never apologize for burning too brightly or collapsing into yourself every night. That is how galaxies are made."
— Tyler Kent White (via forlornes)
(Source: allwereallyneedisweed, via iwaslostsoi)
"Asking for help is not being selfish, it’s doing what you need to in order to survive."
— selfcarereminders (via selfcarereminders)